Aesthetic Treatments

“I Want to Keep the Mystery Alive” and More Reasons Women Don’t Tell Their Spouses About Injectables

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Women and men are both turning to injectables in increasingly large numbers to reduce the appearance of moderate to severe wrinkles and to fill lost volume. And many people who have tried injectable wrinkle reducers or filler enjoy the results from said treatments so much that they book appointments time and time again.

[Editor’s note: Injectable wrinkle reducers temporarily smooth the look of moderate to severe wrinkles in certain areas of the face, including the forehead, frown lines, and crow’s feet; they should not be used more frequently than every three months. Injectable filler is a temporary treatment that adds volume to areas of the face such as the lips, cheeks, and laugh lines. Like any medical treatment, both injectable wrinkle reducers and injectable fillers have potential risks and side effects. Talk to a licensed provider to see if they’re right for you. And learn more now by chatting with a trained aesthetic specialist.]

These results can be subtle — so subtle, in fact, that plenty of people who have tried injectables report that family and friends don’t even notice a change to their appearance. It’s for that reason that many don’t even feel the need to share that they’ve tried something new, even with their spouses or significant others. Sharing that information is a personal decision, after all! To get more insight, we tapped four successful Los Angeles-based women who revealed the why (and how!) they keep their treatments under wraps.  


Name: Joyce

Occupation: Hair Stylist

Age: 33

Location: West Hills, California


Why she won’t tell: “I want to keep the mystery alive.” 


The backstory: “I work in the hair industry, and get to doll up some of the most gorgeous women in the world for a living. To be honest, this can be tough on me mentally, because I definitely feel pressure to look a certain way. 

After hearing me talk about wanting injectables to soften [the look of] forehead lines and plump my lips, one of my clients snagged me an appointment with a [provider] that I couldn’t refuse. I am so happy with the results — and my husband has no idea. I have no plans on telling him, either. What he doesn’t know won’t harm him!”


Name: Shelley

Occupation: Kindergarten Teacher

Age: 38

Location: Redondo Beach, California


Why she won’t tell: “I’m too far down the rabbit hole with the lies.”


The backstory: “The annoying part is that he would be totally fine with it — it’s me who isn’t fine with [telling him]! I had the perfect opportunity to tell my boyfriend (now husband) about four years ago. We were in a group setting talking about injectables, and I had the perfect opportunity to spill the beans, or at least hint at some interest. Instead I vehemently denied it, or any interest in it whatsoever! 

At the time, I was much more insecure and for some reason didn’t want him to know, but lying in that moment has only made it harder on me. I want to be open with him, but it feels like I’ve kept the lie going for so long now — there have been many opportunities since then when I could have confessed — that he will be more disappointed about all the times I’ve lied or denied it versus even caring about the treatments.” 


Name: Sophie

Occupation: Executive Assistant

Age: 24

Location: Marina Del Rey, California


Why she won’t tell: “We’re trying to save for our future, so I want to hide my injectables spending.”


The backstory: “My fiancé and I are trying to save money — to have a nice wedding, and eventually, for a down payment on a condo or house. We have created a special account that we both put money into each month. Since we make about the same, we started out putting equal amounts in, but I told him about six months ago I couldn’t put in as much because I needed to pay off some debt. Truth be told, I just wanted to have the financial flexibility to get my injectables — without having to explain why I didn’t have money left over that month.”


Name: Patty

Occupation: Brand Strategist

Age: 34

Location: Los Angeles, California


Why she won’t tell: “I don’t want him to know just how much I’m spending on it.”


The backstory: “My husband and I just merged our financials. I resisted this for the longest time, but there is no going back. Now, if I’m cracking the whip on the new $3,000 TV he just purchased, I can’t bear to have him get on my case every time he sees the bills from my [injectables provider]. Thank god my doc takes cash!”